New sub dealing with new feelings of "neediness"

[wonderworld]

Hey All,

I need some advice here. I am new to this realm (and site) and I am finally figuring out what this is all about. What I have discovered has been very eye opening and grand. However, I am out of element here. I have a new found sense of irrational neediness (vulnerability). I could do one of two two things:
Go back to vanilla dating where I don't have these issues and just hone my skills at apologizing for the bored look on my face

Use my resources to figure out why and how to overcome this.

I have, like all of you, chosen to continue this route and tackle my issue. I personally think neediness is a VERY unattractive quality and am surprised that I have found myself feeling this way. I am reading a book on BDSM , but would love some real life experiences also. Please share with me any experience or advice you may have on this topic. Thanks!!