Pure gold.
But, as regards the subbie using a dildo- that can still be a submissive thing. If I, just to take an example, put a strap on around my sub's waist and then wish her to nail me with it, that's not necessarily a case of her domming. She's topping, but it's to my instruction. I'm inviting and allowing her into my body, using hers as an implement of MY pleasure.
Yes, I'm just rationalising because I like to have my arse fucked. What of it?![]()