I'm new to the Dom scene, realize, and I have only had one pet. We have the safewords worked out, and I also try to keep a watch just in case I think things are going to far, in which case I call a halt.

Once when I was spanking my sub (hand) she curled up in fetal position and started crying. I picked her up and held her until she stopped, and she said she doesn't' know why she does that. This happened one other time when I spanked her with a belt (once lash with it and she did this, so I never used a belt in our scenes again). Here are my questions.

1. What is it?

2. Good or Bad?

3. How do you deal with it?