I am asking this question because I am confused about it.I heard it can mean anything the people involved wants it to mean.Is there a certain way you have to be/act/dress to be any of them? I am still new at all this and so is my husband.I am submissive (well I guess that's what I am).It seems over-whelming to me to try to figure it all out I read the definitions for BDSM D/s S&M, TPE, slave,service-oriented person,and a few others but still am not sure where I "fit in".Anyone with any info would be appreciated.Thanks