http://www.latimes.com/news/nation-a...454,full.story


So breakdown (for those of u too lazy to read the story :P lol )first:


So right now in my community there is a trial going on over a rape that took place
approximately a month or two ago. The reason this is contoversial is that it was solicited over Craigslist by a man, Jebadiah James Stripe, posing as his ex-girlfriend who posted an ad for rough sex, rape fantasy, etc. the man who replied to the add, Ty Mcdowell,then exchanged instant messages with Stripe whom he thought was the girl in which there was a desire for "humiliation, physical abuse, sexual abuse," (Casper Star Tribune--see above link) expressed on her/Stripes part. After about a week of emails and IM's Stripe carried out the rape brutalizing the woman by "Societal" standards and causing grear mental and expected physical harm to the woman.

Everyone in my community is mad about this crime, mad at the rapist, mad at Craigslist, and highly critical of BDSM. But I think this case is tragic in some ways. Could this have happene if Mcdowel was following SSC practices, was he following SSC practices? I don't know. If he had extensive contact with Striipe who was pretening to be this girl it is possible that he did and even set up a safe word that couldn't have been used as the girl didn't know it for obvious reasons. I think this is a goodreson to meet someone in a coffee shop or something at least once before engaging in play with them, if you do meet someone online. And please don't think I'm blamig the victim cause I'm not. If she didn't know about this, didn't request this, didn't want this that had to be horrible on her and I feel for her, even if she is into BDSM or rape fantasy or whatever if she didn't specifically set this up for herself it is nothing like the "fantasy" and she shouldn't have had to be put through it. But I think that the real person who should be first on the choping block to go to jail is that Stripe guy. He posed as another person to cause them harm and really in his selfishness caused a lot of harm (emotionally, mentally) to at least two people. But I haven't read about him being arrested, charged, or sentenced.
Finally, it ha made my opinions on societal views of BDSM change. I thought with the mainstreaming of BDSM in some movies as well as the sexual openess and curiosity in American culture right now that people were more accepting of the BDSM lifestuyle but when I expressed the slighest bit of sympothy for Mcdowell to a coworker she became disguusted and said that anny sick frek that would respond to an add by a woman asking to be raped was a sick freak and belonged in jail. *Sigh* guess its only okay to tie up pookie with ur neck tie still but only on weekend nights when the moon is full if all the curtains are closed and all the doors double bolted.