I have a friend on here who was treated cruelly by what turned out to be a complete arsehole of a so-called dom. Obviously she's better knowing and better off without him, but it set me wondering...

In your experience, what signs (on-line, email, phone etc) can you pick up to warn you that a Dom won't treat you right?

One good point my friend made was that players don't post much; they don't contribute to the debates or the life of the community. If they do post, it's to make frequent, superficial personal contacts.

With hindsight, what signals do you feel you should you have paid more attention to?

(Let's look out for each other, set the red flags flying to save our sisters a bit of heartache if we can.)