how to your find your blance between your D/S sides?

What are your words of wisdom to making sure you and your partner sink up?

What do you do when both are in a D type Energy surge? What about S type energy?

Balance is something that i always struggle with from day to day. For the longest time i used to blame myself for no being in the correct mood or energy for my partner but lately i have learned you have to go with the flo sometimes. im trying to see what other switches struggle with and what soulutions that you have found that works