I have had some interesting conversations lately with some new submissives.

And the main question is ---how do you Tell ----a true Dom from a want to be

Usually the first thing I tell a sub---is a true Dom with try to find your comfort level----

This life style requires that both sub and Dom find enjoyment from what they are doing.

A true Dom will get his pleasure from guiding you and teaching you to expand from your comfort level. Not just jump in where he is comfortable.

We have a lot of want to be Doms here --who want nothing else but a sex show online --- where they control what you do ---This is fine if that is what the sub is looking for.

A true Dom will try to build a level of trust with his sub.

a want to be will want to be just jump right in there --trying to tell the sub what to do.


True Doms care about their subs --- not just getting off themselves ---they do try to make sure their subs have got off also


True Dom make their subs want to come back for more ---the want to be just do not care

There are alot of True Doms here --but I am afraid we are out numbered by the want to be Doms

So subs take care choose wisely ---you can be hurt by the want to be s not just physically ---but turned off to the whole life style by them