well - google is your friend and the search function here in the library works well.

here are a couple of posts from the library i found by typing "etiquette" in to search:

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...ight=etiquette

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...ight=etiquette

when i googled "bdsm etiquette" or "bdsm safety" - a lot of information came up:

http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsafety.html

http://www.evilmonk.org/a/meijer.cfm

good luck