Quote Originally Posted by ksst View Post
Ok, I had a bit of trepidation about going swimming at the Y today. The communal dressing room was giving me a combination of anxiety and anticipatory exhibitionism since today I am sporting several stripes on the butt. I was worried about someone seeing the marks and thinking I was actually abused rather that the truth of enjoying it. In the news here we certainly see more spouse abuse than we see about people enjoying bdsm. It turned out to be a non issue since I got my own locker aisleway- it was not that busy. But I could see it happening in the future again. Does anyone else worry about this, or do I just say, what the hell, who cares what they think? I sometimes run into people I know there, who also know my husband. I guess I could change in the bathroom, but that is difficult and seems weird.
Actually it is amazing what people do not see. But for those who do, a cool attitude seems to do it. It signals 'nothing wrong here, move on.'