a submissive wi' no limits is indeed a danger to themselves. ye are right in sayin' they are incapeable o' sayin' no. i know that there are thoes whom would say that evera one can say no... self preservation and all, but i 'ave 'ad the unique position in dealin' wi many whom really canna say no, or stop. ther aer no limits because they canna set them up fer themselves. for whatever reason, the self preservation instinct just isna there fer them.indded, this is dangerous fer a Dom/me because they need to be aware o' what damage there can be. no' only physical damage, but also, mental or emotional damage. a sub wi' no limits will ne'er pause and say 'ye are hurtin' mi', or be able to leave... and thta being said, it then becomes abuse. i thin that while no one should need to be hurt, that as a Dominant, makein' amends is what it is all about. no' only did ye reconise the problem, but thought o' a solution to keep her safe, after the play. and that is what is a large pert o' this lifestyle. it doesna stop at tthe door, or once we log off. if we Dominate .... let a sub gi' themselfes to us... we are then duty bound to ensure that that sub is alright... even the mornin' or many mornin's after. good show on keepin' touch and protectin' even after she found someone else. this life allots fer a lot o' responsibility... even across the boarders. any sub wi' no limits needs to be flagged and appropriatly taken care o' because if left to thier own devices, they will get seriously hurt. as a comunity, we need to look out and take care o' these people, because they canna do it fer themselves.


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