M is for Masochism

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I never really considered myself to be a masochist, but I think I should take a closer look. I had thought of masochism as being extreme with the level of pain involved...

I have found that a certain level of pain does most definitely enhance sexual play for me...I've enjoyed much harder spankings than I ever thought I could, with hand, belt, crop, flogger, even the paddle.....also nipple clamps, wax play, and a few others.

Before, I would avoid any pain I could at all costs, but now that we've experimented some, I think I have to admit that I now long for that "endorphin high" that takes me to that other place.

So, does that make me a masochist? I don't consider the pain that I receive to be abuse, mistreatment, or unpleasant as it is called in the definitions. I don't go to the extreme with the pain that I choose to endure. Or does it even matter?

Any thoughts?

OMG! Same here! I never thought of myself as a masochist either, but I know that pain enhances the sexual pleasure I feel during a session.

I used to think of a masochist as those women (and men) that you see in the fetish photos with spikes driven through their breasts or balls. Ugh.

Lately I have started to crave more intense scenes, but haven't worked up the nerve to ask. *smiles* Maybe sometime I will beg him.