Thank Y/you E/everyone for the support. i agree there is away to work around my Mistress/wife's triggers and fears. i figured it out two weeks ago when i tried to have a talk with Her about things. She told me that She is what She is and to stop trying to change Her (which of course isn't what i would ever try to do), yet i know that W/we are living 24/7 and that She is very domme and very nurturing all at once. She is finding Her way into HER as i am into me.
So, i believe the way to be is to live O/our lives and to be happy i am sharing this with my Mistress/Wife and that She is welling to share my journey with me.
sweetsboi