I dont really think that his bahaviour has anything to do with him being a domme or anything like that either. 13 onwards is bad for the parents nomatter who the kid is.
Self esteem on the kid yes I definitely agree with Ozme there.

I was brought up in .. dont know if you guys have seen the cardgame "happy family" but that is pretty much how I grew up. One happy family with 2 good parents and 2 brothers. My youngest brother was the one who brought my parents the most grief but it wasnt really that bad. Good upbringing and rules that would make sense to us kids was imoportant I guess.