Quote Originally Posted by Ranai
I see no point in an unqualified insistence on confidence. It smacks of advocating dishonesty.
In your own interest: Be honest.
If you put on a show of 'absolute conviction' when you are not certain about something, any intelligent submissive will see right through it!!! He/she might go along with it, perhaps out of the desire to please, perhaps out of pity. In the long run, nothing is gained by pretending.

A person who is willing to be your submissive gives you the benefit of the doubt. You don't need to 'prove' anything. You can contribute your best to the relationship. So I'd say, show confindence when it is there. Ask when you don't know. When you have doubts, tell her. You have more fun in the process when you are not nervous that she might see things you are trying to hide. Being honest you can win her respect.
I could not agree more R, thus my advice to get "comfortable" with your level of skill and do what you can as well as you can. Pulling the nine tails out of the bag when you don't know the dynamics of it is not only scary, also pretty irresponsible. Confidence is quite a strange bedfellow... it tends to evolve and grow with experience and a feeling of knowing what you are doing. Right there is the chicken and egg thing.... getting comfortable with your technique takes training, training is hard if you don't have your technique figured out... be that as it may, and getting back on track in this thread, is great to have a partner with a little more experience, you learn quicker as long as you are inclined to being dominant eventually your personality will shine trough.