"Do you think it is the responsibility of the dominant to take care of her needs above his own? Seems selfish and petty to me to do what he is doing. Your thoughts?"

Well, as everthing in this lifestyle, it really depends. First, i have a hard time imagining that a man *needs* more than two women. Second, i *always* think it is incumbent on a Dominant to protect His submissive physically and emotionally. From what you described (and certainly we don't have all the details) it seems like He needs to slow down and make her more comfortable with the situation before taking any further actions.

a guess i believe that each person must feel secure with anything that is happening for it to be okay and if she's not, the He must do something about that.

*~magic~*