(Dis)Reapectfully Disagree?

[just_ine]

Recently someone said to me that there is no such thing as a slave respectfully disagreeing with her Master. He felt disagrement in a power exchange relationship is always disrespectful.
He felt a slave should defer to her Master. Thus there is no chance for a different opinion.

i felt really uncomfortable at this notion.

I'm not a slave and so this doesn't make much sense to me?
I saw myself as slave when I started but I soon realised i'm not.

I know there is no one way... but I wondered whether this was a prevalent mindset for those who see themselves as Masters.

[The Jaded Dominant { koral }]

Well for Me and being in a 24/7 Relationship, Disagreements will and are going to happen. The key to your question was the Respect.
I provide many ways to communicate, The Journal, The Bitch box and a well worded respectful statement on your position.
I have found disagreements that are not aired will lead to resentment and resentment leads to acting out... a Place no one wishes to go
If My slave disagrees with a order and that order is within the negotiated limits of Our contract I expect it to be done. She then has her methods of recourse as mentioned above.
I find it works best for Me through the years if the slave/sub always has a way to express his/her self to her Master
J D

[just_ine]

Thank You very much for Your response. This is how I understood it and how I experienced it in an Owner/property dynamic.
Much appreciated.

[LaMarrKee]

I want an intelligent lass who if she sees I am about to do something stupid (Hey- *I* am human, too!), will respectfully tell me so, and save me from making a Complete fool of myself. When I own a lass, I want her to use brains as well as body in my service; a lass who never disagreed, I think, could be defined as a 'doormat'. And where is the challenge, or the sport, in 'dominating' a doormat? The key IS 'respect'. If the respect is there, then disagreements aren't a problem. but as JD said- if there is no outlet to express disagreements, it simply fosters resentments. And resentments, I have found fester and make what Was a minor problem into a major issue before they get resolved- if they ever do. I think the fellow who told you that had been reading too many Gor books.

[Denzark]

We are told bdsm relationships are what the partners want them to be. There is no bdsm rulebook. It follows therefore that the Dom who felt disagreement is disrespectful can only speak for himself and not for bdsm relationships as a whole.

Since there is no bdsm rulebook we can only seek guidance for an answer to this qustion in other situations where there is power authoritu differential eg military, historical slavery, customer service industries eg hotels. There are cases where the rule is, dont speak or venture opinion unless asked to do so. In that scenario expressing disagreement without being asked is not allowed. In other cases it is a case of how the disagreement is phrased. We can look at the stereotype butler for how disagreement or correction is done eg Perhaps his lordship has not taken into account how tired I am having been working all day.

Power is about who makes the final decision. It does not mean there can be no inputs into the decision making process.

[just_ine]

Thank You All for Your responses.
All of these responses were as I understood but I suddenly felt slightly unsure of myself. For me as a submissive, I have felt immense satisfaction when my King and I could work through issues rather than around them. I found that an open and respectful dynamic brought us closer on all other levels.