Switchs please introduce yourselves here

[Rabbit1]

So anyone with questions can ask for you by name --if you like please include a brief history of your experiences in your introduction.

[Jadetiger]

Hello my name is Jadetiger. Of course I am a switch. I currenty have the pleasure of being Mistress to Bald F and J. Friede and Jean are delightful subs. I have only had 2 online masters and met them both through this forum or chat. Feel free to ask questions. I am normally a very open minded person and will answer your questions as honestly as I can.

[Ruby]

Hi, I'm Ruby.

Pet to T and Miss to Nathaniel.

T is the hubby. We've been going strong for over 22 years.

Nathaniel is the long distance sub and became mine in June of 2005. This is our thread:
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3419

My kink my not be yours, but I respect your right to have as many and varied kinks your heart, mind and body desires.

I also tend to play much rougher in fantasy than in real life. If you judge me by my fictional characters, then I'd have to be supernatural to enjoy all my naughty thoughts.

I'll do my best to answer questions and to keep an open mind. I may also answer questions in the mistress or sub sections of this forum.

If I don't answer right away, check to see if I'm out of the office or feel free to send me a PM or e-mail. When I'm on the road, it's easier to answer e-mails.

[Masters_lilone]

hi there all i'm Laura aka Masters_lilone and i have been active in the lifestyle on and off for over a year but i still consider my self to be somewhat of a newbie. i am Mistress to lil_spike and soon to be wife and slave girl to my Master .if you have and questions for me just ask and i will answer them or point to to where you can find the answer. i will also answer questions on the sub/slave thread as well.

[Kitten-Pi]

Hello
Usualy I take name as Kitten pi, I take both sides easily and have for a number of years. I have been on this forum for a while but haven;t been here in a long long time so I thought I should post to let people know I am alive.

I have been fortunate enough to have two sub boys in a row so I thought about posting as a Mistress only but that submissive bug in me kepts pointing me this way.

I am very open, I will talk about anything and answer most things. If its out there I have tried it or will try it just so I can answer the next person lol.
(minus animals and children, that's my only problem. I think)

[Aesop]

Howdy Kitten-Pi. Glad you decided to come out and play.

[smackers]

I would guess I'd have to put myself in the switch category at the moment. I am enjoying discovering both sides - is this quite common or do most of you come to the scene with a definite preference for dom / sub?

I'm a control freak by nature although was surprised at how caring a dom I can be (although not in my head!) and I'm having a few problems with topping from the bottom - I can only assume from reading other posts that this is natural and can be overcome (so to speak )

[samzum]

mmm yes keep coming online from a switch point of view.... funny . guess maybe it depends on my mood and whoever I may be interacting with on how they approach mmmm
Anyways if I keep enjoying it.. then it must be ok for me :-) .

[Camper]

Hi there,

I'm only lightly into bondage, and prefer to be sub, but sometimes enjoy being Top. My GF only prefers to be Top if she's in a bad mood and doesn't want to be touched, so if we do bondage, most of the time I'm the active one. ;-))
We did a little control game, forcing her to do BJs, and while it was a lot of fun, I belive neither of us was really comfortable. Probably should talk about it. ;-)

But in fantasy at least, I enjoy a lot of things, both ways. Quote: "If I read your stories, it's hard to believe youre so tame." :-))

[Blue_Monday]

Hi, I'm Lisa, and I've been lurking around here for months without introducing myself. I hated to label myself as either a Domme or a sub, because I switch back and forth frequently and easily--feels like cheating sometimes!

I'm hoping to marry my Master (who is also my slave boy) this summer. You might say we're "Bedroom BDSMers." We just do it for fun, sometimes mixing little chores around the house into sex or wearing something kinky out in public.

As a forum member, I hope that seeing BDSM from both sides (top and bottom) makes me better at contributing to both sides of the conversations here!

[thir]

Hi, I'm Lisa, and I've been lurking around here for months without introducing myself. I hated to label myself as either a Domme or a sub, because I switch back and forth frequently and easily--feels like cheating sometimes!

I am exploring a problem a bit like you mention, that is, on many lists it seems
you have to label yourself as either or. Why?

And a question for clarification if that is ok - what do you mean when you say that switching feels like cheating?

[Avralivia]

I enjoy the thrill of giving over power to a master, letting him push me over my edge and cast me into subspace, it brings me an abandon i cannot achieve elswhere in my life, and a pleasure unmatchable.

I also love to tie up and abuse and use a sub, play games with his mind and body and push his limits. My current bondage partner is like me, very cheeky and outgoing and sarcastic in life, and right up till i collar and bind him he is cheeky, then he suddenly becomes this other person that lurks deep inside him, his gaze lowers and his voice becomes submissive as he bends to my will, damn i love that!

mostly i tend to have partners who are switches, as i enjoy both ideally i need someone who likes both too

[frankee]

i know that i like to be submissive and to be dominated, but you sure do make being a switch sound like fun!! *big grin*




frankee




Proud sub of Mistress Cindy

[Avralivia]

i know that i like to be submissive and to be dominated, but you sure do make being a switch sound like fun!! *big grin*

frankee


Proud sub of Mistress Cindy

Hehe it is - lots of fun - best of both worlds i guess.

[Warbaby1943]

I enjoy the thrill of giving over power to a master, letting him push me over my edge and cast me into subspace, it brings me an abandon i cannot achieve elswhere in my life, and a pleasure unmatchable.

I also love to tie up and abuse and use a sub, play games with his mind and body and push his limits. My current bondage partner is like me, very cheeky and outgoing and sarcastic in life, and right up till i collar and bind him he is cheeky, then he suddenly becomes this other person that lurks deep inside him, his gaze lowers and his voice becomes submissive as he bends to my will, damn i love that!

mostly i tend to have partners who are switches, as i enjoy both ideally i need someone who likes both too

Avralivia,
I am planning on using just a little of what you said in another thread about collaring. I think it add another dimension to the discussion. First though I have to find the other thread. Thanks.

[frankee]

Might have to give it a go sometime,if im allowed, lol.






frankee




Proud sub of Mistress Cindy

[Avralivia]

Might have to give it a go sometime,if im allowed, lol.


frankee


Proud sub of Mistress Cindy

try coming up with a good plan something you think your domme would like, and submit it to her in such a way it seems you are doing it for her pleasure

[WhiteRaven810]

Howdy. I could reiterate the same things I wrote in my introduction, or I could cut down on polluting the planet by simply recycling.

Here's the link to my introduction.

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5997

Enjoy.

[frankee]

oooooooooooo i knew that you were a smart girl!! i'll have to sit down and think about it and see what i come up with. *rubbing hands together*





frankee




Proud sub of Mistress Cindy

[EvansCosita]

I consider myself a sub, and I have a wonderful online Master that I have been committed to for some time now. He is undergoing a period of great stress, and asked me, on a whim, if I would be willing to be a Mistress to him, calling him my pet. He also said he didn't think I could do it (I can seldom resist a challenge like that). We spent the day in each other's roles yesterday, after a particularly challenging previous day (he can get very cranky when stressed). We were both grinning the whole time. I got quite a thrill out of his eagerness to please me, and he was so focused on pleasing me that he was able to block out his stress. He enjoyed it so much, in fact, that he respectfully asked me to continue until he has passed the date causing his stress, and I could practically feel him jumping up and down when I agreed - which is quite a feat from over 1000 miles away!

So now we are both questioning what we are, and there is a chance we will determine that we both want to switch. I can definitely say it's been fun so far! But it is also more of a challenge than I expected, as I am not used to giving the tasks... Any tips you can provide would be welcome! We are online only, and he has little freedom at home or work to do anything that would expose our kinks, so finding things he needs to do for me has been difficult (we don't have as much trouble when he is in charge, as I have much more freedom at home)!

[TheKnothead]

Hi Everyone,
Guess I really should introduce myself. Glad I finally poked my head into this forum, as it is where I really belong. I am a bondage freak and have been as long as I can remember. I've been both a bottom and a top and truthfully can't decide which I like better. Technically I think I'm better a being a top, trust issues and all that you know....I'm happily married going on eight years now...lived in NYC for several years and played at Hellfire as a bottom, so I do know a few things about real time S/M...not my cup of tea...aaaahhh, I love forests and rain, so I live in the middle of the desert...definitely a masochist...and I guess the rest will just have to come out in conversation...

oh...and thanks to everyone who has already warmly welcomed me to this site...this is a very cool place!

[to_imagine]

Hi Everybody,
I started out as a dom and had two female slaves. Both relationships very intense. Seeing a beautiful intelligent woman become more submissive the more you trained her was like a drug to me.
I took a new job about 1.5 years ago, lots of stress, traveling all the time. Two dancers introduced me to the world of submission and since then, I am constantly searching to be a boy toy for women. I don't have a recipe. I love looking into a woman's eyes and seeing she is pleased with me. I love having to help a woman explore her wildest fantasies and helping her fulfill them. Every week that I travel I look for women who would be interested in controlling me. I search in strip clubs, night clubs, fine restaurants for women whom I am attracted to. I seem to have good karma because in the last year I have had some mind boggling experiences. The more I get the more I want.

I work all the time in a high stress job (that I love), but when I get off of work I stay revved up. I've tried some drugs (nothing hard core) and alcohol but nothing winds me down like being a boy toy/whore/complete slut for a sexy, intelligent woman.

I hope to meet people here that share my intense desires.

[steveap2004]

so to speak lol.
I love been submissive and have a new GF that loves to be domme over me, but also have a desire to dom, so guess that makes me a switch????- not too sure as really only moving into this realm from vanilla (only only just starting to learn the terms as well lol). Love to meet with a femdomme online to teach me the art yummmmmm.
Into anything and everything (less the two obvious ones) and would do anything to please the Mistress.

[Lillypad]

I consider myself a switch since I have fantasies about being dominated and dominating. But the only rl experience I have in doming my current gf although I have played alittle online.

[RickBulow74]

I have mostly dabbled in the lifestyle online, and as I mentioned in a couple of other threads did a paper on the subject. I consider myself a switch as I have both Dominant and submissive tendencies. I am new to teh lifestyle and wish any advice and assistance any could give.

[Viv]

Hello everyone...

Switch...what a word...description... Deverse Desires... *need to check my spelling*..

I've been attracted to the BDSM Lifestyle since I was WAY too young. Reading everything I could get my hands on. Felt an overwhelming desire to know more...and still do.... Been a fan of the library for more years than I care to acknowledge.

I started experiencing from the submissive side...the bondage, spankings, edge play...but something was missing...I kept topping from the bottom, do this...make me do that...give me more...no not that way this way....basically just ruins Tops feelings and mine...gags worked ok...but my mental state just didn't stop. I still have the desires of a submissive without doubts, but I began to explore the other side.

To give to someone what I wanted. To take them out of themselves, the rush of pleasure...the rush of pain...the connection mentally and physically. My...what a rush of pleasure.

As for the ability to switch during a session....it is hard...but I find there are times that the switch is easier than others....lets say during a session I've worked my passion to a nice peek....Yes as I Domme I can have that qucik release, but I also know that to delay the release adds to the pleasure. SO...at that point in a session I can switch if my partner is able to take control....ie...learn to tie good knots to prevent... Now the ability to go from sub to Domme...is harder for me to describe, but it is possible.

For me it is doing what my partner and I want at the time...Top/Bottom/ somewhere inbetween. Communication and understanding desires or...just the willness to explore...

thanks...

Viv

[jacktar007]

Jacktar here, your friendly knotty boy.

I have in some circles discovered that people tend to look down on us a little. Even ' a switch is sub that has not met a proper master/ mistress yet...' Disappointing to say the least, I would say. Personally I'm in a stable relationship, with a lot of experimentation taking place and both of us have discovered that we have our likes and dislikes. The fact that we share some but not others complete the whole thing for both of us I think.

As for the starting from the bottom, how else can you ever learn? If you aare not even willing to try something you are going to do to some other luckless soul? I can understand not liking it, but not trying it?

[thir]

Jacktar here, your friendly knotty boy.

I have in some circles discovered that people tend to look down on us a little. Even ' a switch is sub that has not met a proper master/ mistress yet...' Disappointing to say the least, I would say.

As mentioned earlier I have run into this a lot. Both that switching is sort of not accepted, but actually also that fem Dommes are not accepted!

Does anyone have any explanations for this, or other comments?

[riverwindsong]

Wow, can't believe I never introduced myself here.

I joined the Library back in 2006 as a strict sub. But, as time passed, I realized that I was a switch.

I currently have two subs of my own, a man and a woman, and I love them dearly. I also have just started a relationship with a dom, and we're learning more about each other every day.

My life is good.

[Mothra!!!]

Hi folks. I'm new to the forum and I'm a switch! Fancy meeting y'all here!