i need training

[jessie.val]

im going to need to be trained to be a better slave for my future master.....who ever that may be......do any of have any tips or advise for a beginner?

[iseult]

Hi Jessie, my advise would be not to rush into anything, although the temptation is defiantly there (read up on 'sub frenzy'). while there are many very good and helpful folk and I have found people on this site to be on the whole genuine, kind and helpful, like everything there are some bad apples and the last thing you want is to open yourself up to one of those. firstly read read read, have as good an idea as you can about what you want. I personally think as a sub, having a subby 'mentor' is very helpful. The more you are on the site and the more freinds You make the more you will discover people who you can approach to act in this role. Be extremely caution about 'training' with anyone who doesn't have at least some on line history and if you can try to assure yourself that they have freinds and are respected by others before leaping in yourself (check out visitors messages, forum posts etc etc). Also be careful about anyone insisting on being called Master before you have even introduced yourself, or someone who makes You feel uncomfortable or uneasy. Above all be cautious, jp just as you would any real life relationship.

Good luck!

[jessie.val]

thanks for that i am very ....ready.. to jump in but it is a bit spooky and i need to keep safe

[jessie.val]

yeah maybe....im just tired of being alone .....and then i found this and i get this feeling of wonder and and relief.......i just want it already im tired of waiting thats all i ever do.....

[jessie.val]

im also supper new ...just a babe in the woods....i have almost know clue what im doing or how to do it

[mel23]

If I may add....even tho most of the important things have been covered when trying to find a Dominant to start a journey with don't just jump into what you find first and avoid ones that try to steer you away from everyone and the biggest red flag that i can ever advise you of is dont ever trust someone that says i know what i am doing you don't have to talk to anyone i have done this for many years. That there is something that i would avoid at all costs. And also someone that wants pictures the first talk or to play first thing. ANY type of BDSM relationship is still a relationship after all and there are a good bit of dangers involved with it as well which is why people who don't take the time to learn and hurt their sub have given BDSM a bad name and reputation. It takes lots of communication and time on both parts. Always have a person you can go to and communicate with to make sure everything is going the way it should. IF you ever meet up with someone make sure you have an escape plan as well things can go so wrong and people turn out to be something they are not. Just take it slow and build a friendship before a relationship with someone even tho you may want to just jump right in head and feet. Afterall a Dominant cant be who they are without the true submission of a sub and submission shouldn't just be given to them because they want it its earn and you should trust before that first step of submission is even granted.

[Flaming_Redhead]

My advice is to learn a skill that is useful, such as cooking, rather than a behavior which might have to be unlearned, such as keeping your eyes downcast.