Valshar
Registered User

sometimes.. someone hears the words we whisper perhaps that makes them real.. its very sad here.. like the carnival during the day.. without the fairy lights to hide the dirt and grime.

Romantic is a very good thing... Up to a point : )

Sighs... Your such a romantic .. Be still my beating heart

So when are you planning your kinky weekend with you girlfriend.. Some lovely soft silk rope, candles, ice and a blind fold?

Haha.. A week? Are you sure you are up to that ; )

Pain seeks pain and love seeks love that is how the energies flow. Kinky sex ... Well that's a whole different kettle of fish .. And fish is apparently good for us : )

Thank you for making me smile.

True...I have come to realize a number of things. That while in my marriage, I felt very alone. I reached out to the internet to try to find a connection with someone to end my loneliness. I found my Sunshine/Misty. What I had with her was a fantasy that I needed to keep my spirits up. She game me something to look forward to. I had an affair with a woman who existed in my life but not in my real life of flesh and blood. She was the fantasy life that I created and needed at that moment. The surprise was finding love, unexpected. I wanted kinky sex, but I found something else that touched me deeply. I mourn her loss, I dream about what could be, yet I know that I have this 2nd chance in real life to have what I dreamed about. Surprisingly, I find myself in a vanilla relationship. I have come to realize for myself that BDSM is all a fantasy with so many emotional pitfalls, traps, and disappointments. There are good people in the community, but so many damaged. We focus on the kinky sex and the sexual acts, yet maybe that focus gets in the way of true intimacy?

When your mind is filled with dreams your not living your life to the full.. But wishing for something unattainable.

Feelings are always real.. They are in response to our perception or reaction to an experience.. What you had was an intense moment in time ... real but not necessarily reality.

I always want to ask something but I don't know how without causing offence .. Which is not intended

I love the outdoors and backpacking. That photo was taken as I was scrambling up a rocky slope to get to a lake that is special to me....it reminds me of my Sunshine. She enjoyed looking photos of the places that I had been to. I imagined that she was there with me while I was on the trail.

Umm.. How come you are using that avatar?