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I realised a while ago that even if we say the same words we often don't mean the same things. This really helped me greatly in my current relationships.
I am often reminded that I need to speak my my very clearly....make my meaning known.
It needs to be said with respect, yes... With regard for our different places in our dynamic...but it Must still be said.

And I agree with cutielady... Go with your own style. Some need gentle. Some need harsh. And some need a whole lot of firm without being harsh. And most need a mixture of all of those. Find the style that works for You and dont be too worried about opinions. The right one will respond to You...

Too many people try to make, "one size fits all" rules to D/s. Each situation has to grow on its own and adapt to what works for them.

I don't think you are wrong. I think different subs need different things though. Some need more sadism, some more simple leading which just from this tiny bit sounds like your style, you set the boundaries and work within them. Sounds like you have a handle on what you are about. I would say just stay the course. I hope the conversation/relationship works out for you. Ok enough of my nosy thoughts *grins* im studying to be a counselor and your blog caught my attention.

So do I, thank you.

Welcome JuliusP

I hope that You have a really enjoyable stay at the Library. :)