I am a submissive who loves being punished. Whether it be with a spanking or standing in the corner I love the feeling of being dominated over and disciplined. The problem is that my husband is just far too violent with it. He loves throwing me onto the bed and slamming into walls, and I love it too, but sometimes it's too overwhelming. He knows this, but can't seem to get the knack of doing anything else. Our Dominant/submissive relationship is strictly sexual and doesn't run our lives completely and we both want it to be enjoyable for both of us. How do I explain to him in a way he can understand what it is that I'm looking for?