I have had 2 incision and marsupializations of bartholin's gland cysts- one on each side. They still flair up on occassion, and I've mentioned it to the Dr a couple times and he always says "as long as it goes back down, its ok"

And if i tell him its generally after sex, he tells me it's normal.

But I feel like it happens much too easily, and the would-be-cysts take too long to recede. It just isn't acceptable to me that my sex life is interupted so often and so easily. But the Dr says he is unwilling to do surgery unless anything major goes wrong again, and there is nothing else to be done, and eventually everything will readjust, and the tubes will open up and not get clogged so often and easily.

Add on to this that sometimes the vaginal walls feel abused much too easily, getting sore and tender after 2 or 3 average (by your standards, probably gentle) sessions in a weekend period. It seems silly to say, but I feel like he is just too big, that his width batters me, and drags on the lips (especially the lil flap of skin that goes across the bottom of the opening, where the perineum meets the vaginal opening?) Add to that that sometimes the juices just don't flow.


Ugh. I feel like I'm being overly whiney sometimes. And other times I think I have a legitimate complaint. I can never seem to talk to the Dr about it, he kind of pushes it off- irritation is normal after sex. I don't want to switch Dr's b/c he is really knowledgeable and I really like him, but idk how to get my point across on this. Maybe there isn't even one to get across. grah.