Hi everybody. I am a parent of a 13 year old male who has always had tendencies towards a dominant behaviour. Now i am not presuming that he will one day grow into a Dom and personally believe what he does as an adult in his relationships (legally) is his business.

As a baby he did not want coddling when hurt, instead preferring to be alone. If forced to eat something he didn't like (vegetables) he would spit it back into their (my) faces. As a younger kid he was rigid about rules and if someone broke the rules he would argue valiantly. As a young teen, he always insists he is right and does whatever he wants not responding to getting things taken away as punishment and has a smug comeback (usually logically right but done so arrogantly that no one cares that he is right) to everything.

We were having an argument today which got me to thinking about a post i had read where the Dom was boasting having taken a paddle away from his mother and using it on her instead. I would imagine his mother often felt unsure of how to handle him and make him more compliant.

So here is my question.... is this something that many Dom/mes have experienced? This power struggle with their mothers? I would be especially curious to hear from people who did not have a father in the home for whatever reason as is the case with me and any tips on how i can get him to do what i need him to do.