Quote Originally Posted by Malvolio View Post
Among BDSM-people, being a collared slave does announce that you've got an owner / master / whatever. To me, that doesn't mean an uncollared slave can get ordered around (unless it's a specific party rule), that is still rude behaviour.

Privately, I like collars to put my sub on a leash, to tighten it uncomfortably – to play with, but there's also the kind of collar that makes the relationship more permanent. I'd probably go out and buy a special collar then, to differentiate from the play collar.
I have to agree with this, as I have two collars for mistik. One a public collar that consists of an O ring on a silver chain. The other the typical leather play collar. Both are important to us. Oddly enough in no one on either side of our family or friends has ever questioned her public collar. Either A the don't notice or B they could be afraid of the answer that they'll get.