This is just a quick thank you to everyone who took the time to try and help me. I am so grateful. I had my eyes opened a bit tonight, a chance look through the recent threads showed me that I have been so stupid. To think that a short infatuation with albeit a wonderful guy is not worth a 20yr marriage and if that means that Love2serve has to put her submission aside for a while then maybe that would be for the best? Who knows, anyway, thanks again to everyone and hopefully if I see you on chat in the future you will see a happy Love2 who knows in her heart she has done the right thing. xxxxxxxx