I'm new to the community and not hugely experienced, having only had one very private BDSM relationship and never being part of the 'lifestyle, so yes, I wondered what on earth I could possibly contribute to anyone's comments on here. But you know what, someone wrote with a problem that I just so happened to have direct experience of so I wrote what I knew and from the subsequent replies I could see that I hadn't been ignorant or foolish and had even been helpful. That was very gratifying. I don't expect always to be so 'smart' - I feel like my experience is about used up - but it gave me confidence to at least contribute. If you're the one posing the problem or query or thought, it's brilliant when folk are thoughtful enough to respond and you can judge for yourself how useful the replies are. I enjoy the humour, intelligence and personalities of the people on here, as well as appreciating the help, so I would urge anyone to get involved, respond to your instinct and post with confidence.