Quote Originally Posted by TheThinMan
If that's the only attitude with which you approach topping, I'd suggest explaining to your boyfriend that you simply aren't cut out for it. The entire point of a Domme is that she is the one in control. She sets the scene. She gives the orders and makes sure that those orders are obeyed. In the fantasy, when she grants others their fantasies, it's a coincidence or an uncharacteristic show of extreme generosity.

It sounds like you already have a pretty decent idea of what your boyfriend wants, but the question is "What do you want?" Ponder that long and hard, and don't get stuck in the rut of chains, whips, and leather. Anything goes. If having another person as a pet, slave, servant, or plaything figures nowhere into your fantasies, it's time to just concede that topping isn't for you.
thanks for that ive tried expaling this to many of times but he seams in way to be inoring what i say i try to accomadate his feelings though, thanks for your post