Wife not interested

[scb2164]

I'm into BDSM but my wife is not. How do I satisfy my urges?

[JimmyJump]

I'm into BDSM but my wife is not. How do I satisfy my urges?

Okay. Short 'n' sweet, heh...

First of all, I hope that the "she's not interested" part is a certainty (like, you talked about it) and not a figment of a reluctant imagination?

Secondly, if and when you talked about it with your other half, how did you tackle the subject? Did you come in like a bulldozer, or did you give subtle hints?

And is there a chance, regardless of the reluctance of your wife, that you could introduce some mild BDSM, like spanking, or tying-up?

And what do you mean with "I'm into BDSM"...? Are you a full-blown sadist who dreams of a vast dungeon with droves of slaves, or are you the concervative schoolmaster type that likes the odd spanking?


JJ

[scb2164]

No, I didn't tackle it like a bulldozer. She is into light spanking. I prefer a much heavier scene as either a submissive or dominant. Usually submissive. She's just not going to there.

[JimmyJump]

No, I didn't tackle it like a bulldozer. She is into light spanking. I prefer a much heavier scene as either a submissive or dominant. Usually submissive. She's just not going to there.

Well, since I don't have that much experience with the scene and since handing out advice in such a delicate matter is a venture on rather thin ice, I can only suggest to try and work out a scheme with your wife, to give you the possibility to seek 'help' outside the marital cradle.

Have a talk about an eventual on-line relationship, for starters. See where that leads, both the talk and the on-line thing.

For a more in-depth chat about your 'problem', I fear I'm going to have to let more experienced folk take over...

I also wonder what you've been doing with your 'urge' so far, since you're 38 and all...

I sincerely hope for an outcome that will be satisfactory for all parties involved. Good luck scb2164


JJ